Digital Detox

We were waiting for our order of pizzas and white sauce pasta at a well-known pizza joint. It was a long time since we had this, overloaded with cheese and ‘guilt’ disc of flour. Passing the long wait for the sinful treat by having the quick look at tables around. Peeping into the others plates can actually give you the idea for what to order.

“Hey! Hold the slice closer to your lips and turn your face little towards right!” two girls at the adjacent table trying to click a perfect selfie. They clicked many pics from all the angles and with all the poses for good 15 minutes. Pizza can wait but not the uploads!

Twenty days to be precise since I have uninstalled my Facebook and whatsapp icon from the phone screen. Not in protest of Mark Zuckerberg people don’t consider me a celebrity yet! (I’m my own celebrity! 🙂 )

People often go on a detox diet to get rid of toxics or unhealthy substances from the body and I went on the digital detox! To get rid of unnecessary clutter of thoughts and information. And this was not an impulsive decision; I wanted it for quite some time but couldn’t do it as being continuously connected on whatsapp was a necessity of my professional life. (Now I’m a free-lancer; working as per my will)

Imagine a day without your phone….just imagine no scrolling down the facebook; no alert of whatsapp messages. A day without dp, likes, comments and chats! Scary? We have become so addictive of peeping into what’s happening in others’ lives that we need it on everyday basis; just like substance addiction. For everything, whether happy or sad, there is a facebook update- “Happy b’day hubby!” “My daughter’s first day of school” “Feeling overworked” “Having dinner at …… with 5 others”

Trying out a new restaurant – FB update

Bought a new dress- change the profile pic

Celebrating your wife’s b’day – the world should know

Having holidays in Singapore- nothing less than 100 pics uploaded

(A confession: once upon a time I also did the same!)

Come on! Keep something personal!

I have nothing against it after all its good to share a bit of your life with your friends. A bit of….with friends….

Knowingly or unknowingly we are falling into the trap of Histrionic personality disorder (HPD). Wanting continuous attention, admiration and sympathy.

Can you imagine how much stress this whatsapp has created in our lives? After a long day at work you get a massage late in the evening on whatsapp from a colleague or the boss asking to send minutes of the meeting asap. Or after a hectic day you got an alert for an unscheduled meeting tomorrow in the office.

You are continuously on the disposal of your office; no personal life; life revolving around the notifications!

Use of Whatsapp for official/ professional purpose should be banned; it is one of the culprits in raising the stress levels.

You are more available to the world than to your family and the loved ones. And totally oblivious with your own self; no time to meet with the person living in you. Living in a different world and putting our best picture forward; corrected with the editing apps and clicked using candy cam!

Take Digital Detox after regular intervals just to meet people around, to indulge in activities beyond the screen; sometimes spend some moments with your-self.

Digitalization is the need of the hour, but overdose and over exposure of anything is bad. Just to test whether you have become additive to digital social platforms, go on a digital detox mode.

Ahh! Our order has arrived; let’s dig in the sumptuous cheesy lip-smacking Pizza! “Hey! What about a pic mommy for Fb??” Naaah……. Just a treat for our senses; I’m on a digital detox!

© [Charu Gupta] and [Potpourri of life] [2018].

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I was missing my school time friends. Wondering, what all were doing in life.

Someone suggested opening a Facebook account; it’s easy to search friends on this social site. (Those days I was on sabbatical). It was in January, 2011 that I opened a Facebook account. I was excited, eager and fervent to type names of my sweethearts of grade 2 in the space of search friends.

OMG!!

The lost connection got connected!!

Nothing in this world can beat the bond that you share with your school friends.

This was my debut in the world of social networking. Whatsapp, Twitter and Blog followed.

I was in a different world as if living my school days again! Giggles, chats, video conferences …..crushes and secrets . Facebook and Whatsapp became my best friends as they connected me with my besties.

This continued….. Few months later I was back to job (apart from job of a home maker).

More groups on WhatsApp and more ‘Friends’ on Facebook…

I don’t know when my phone became my extended arm. As if without it I was incomplete. It became my necessity not only personally but also officially.

Facebook works as a holiday destination guide, people sharing pics of their holidays (and dresses), food and fun (reality check is important). And then starts the whirlpool of likes and comments.

More likes and nice comments make your heart swell with pride!

Pictures are clicked not for the memories but for the Facebook upload. Those days are passé when the whole family gathered around a huge album of memories and had discussions on each picture.

You keep on increasing the list of friends on Facebook, all are your friends; near, far and friends of friends. More the merrier. You fell like a celebrity receiving likes and praises for each pose and post. It’s a colossal platform of socializing, you like me I like you, deal!

Wishing ‘Good Morning’ every day to one and all with a different thought and preach has become a routine! Thanks to Whatsapp. And when the same people cross paths, they do not even feel the need to exchange smiles!  You have the right to ignore; even the double blue ticks don’t make the other person liable to response.  Misinterpretation of thoughts and messages are common (You can’t hear the tone and read the face).

On twitter, instagram, blogs you follow them they follow you!

Nothing against for all these social networking sites but the actual connection is lost somewhere. That excitement to meet someone or the pleasure to talk with your friend is fading out in this tech socializing world. You can’t feel the warmth of a handshake through emoticons. You have all sorts of emoticons available to express each emotion but do they really express the emotion that just a look into the eyes can?

Are we connecting more or drifting apart? The whole world looks connected and approachable. Is it true? I admit my gratitude to Facebook, without which, I couldn’t have re-connected with my old buddies.

But, for me, talking to a friend on phone or meeting in person makes me feel more connected than chatting on whatsapp. I miss my old childhood days when we used to spend hours playing together and visiting each other’s home for birthday parties. Thank God Whatsapp was not born till then and joy and sorrow were not captivated into emoticons. Friend list was limited but true. No likes, no comments and no followers defined our friendship.

Hey my school friends! When are we having our next get together?