Enlightenment @40

Have you ever done a meditation course? Something like the Art of Living or Deepak Chopra’s meditation…Well these programs never attracted me until a few days back one of my dear friends proposed to join one of such online courses (Yeah, online on WhatsApp! Calm your senses at just one touch!). I agreed not because of the course but for my friend and also to know ‘what actually they do to enlighten you in fifteen minutes!’ So the group was formed and dos and don’ts were dictated. No irrelevant message was allowed (mind it all the members were school friends) and the day one task was given. The first task itself got me mulling over. Somehow I cajoled myself to go for it with all the positivity. I must admit it wasn’t easy especially to shut up my talkative mind and focus on my inner self during the chanting of mantras. The background music was soothing and it did relax me for those ten minutes. I’m still moving ahead each day in the hope to see some change in my state (though I’m quite comfortable with my current disposition) and to test my endurance to complete this 21 days program. Yesterday I got a task to make a list of people around me or known to me who I feel are taking away my energy…people that make me feel uncomfortable. They could be anyone from family members to friends, colleagues or neighbours. I need to write a blessing in front of each name.

I sat down with the notebook that I have made for this 21 days course to list down the names. I was sure to make a long list as there were many who pissed me off and gave me sleepless nights. I started thinking, first from the family and I knew whose name to write but then…Does that person still bothers me? And guess what …No. I dropped that name to add later if required and moved to write few names of the colleagues. I wrote a name ….Does she still makes me mad? No. I erased. I thought of a so called friend who always tried to show superiority over my thoughts.  Again, that name did not make it to the list! Have I become sane? Suddenly all those creepy creatures who once rolled over my nerves become immaterial for me. A couple of years back I was not like this. It was so easy for anyone to get my blood rushing and my tone raising but today it’s only my kids and husband who occasionally experience my fierce side. Is something wrong with me? Or is it something to do with ageing?

I’m in early forties and for many it is synonymous to the term ‘Mid-life crises’ but turn your perspective a little, clear your glasses and look again…..’ Mid-life bliss’!  Yes, this is what I’m experiencing. I have become more enlightened in my fifth decade of arrival. Sample some of my awakenings …..

I have accepted myself – the way I look is just perfect. That broad forehead and little more than five feet height makes me beautiful. I love my reflection in the mirror with my imperfect nose and not so elegant jawline.

I know how to distance from toxic people– Arguments can’t change the other person and nor your goodness. Shut the door at them and don’t let their venomousness flow into your lovely heart. I love to be around with my family, friends and people who make me feel happy and wanted.

No validation required–  As they say life is a marathon between birth and death and I want to run my marathon as I want- No approvals required. This is my life and only my life and I want to craft it my way even if others disapprove my plan. If you like me, good enough and if not I don’t care.

No more heartbreaks–  The golden rule is if you want to avoid heart breaks then stop expecting. I am learning not to expect a return favour or compliment or action from people. No I’m not becoming a saint but I had troubled my heart enough with my expectations. It’s not that I do not expect but now I know whom to expect or rather demand. I hold those who love me close to my heart and they never disappoint me.

No meditation or program could make you a better person until you yourself want to be. I’m continuing with my 21 days meditation program but I guess my enlightenment has already happened! Hey friend I trust you as a well-wisher and love you for all the positivity but I’m sorry I am leaving this page empty…nobody can take away my energy or disturb my peace of mind.

© 2019 Charu Gupta and Potpourri of life.

I never thought to live it again

I never thought to live it again

The years that gone with age

But my dreams are turning true

With each glory to your name

You standing on the pedestal

And it’s me bestowed with the medals

The worlds you see, the friends you make

I travel with you in the snow n rain

The exotic meal at the café

And all the splendor of the new land

I’m there enjoying all the merry

As you soar to live your desires

And set to discover odyssey of life

I can feel the air and see myself flying

Live like there won’t be another day

And don’t let any dream fade

I’m there with you in your smiles

In tough turns and daring dives

I am excited to live in rewind

As today I turned nineteen again!

Happy Birthday, Princess!

Have you invested your money wisely?

It’s been more than six months since our daughter left home and headed to the United States for her higher education but the concerns of our ‘Friends and Relatives’ have not ended yet! Sample some-

“You guys have taken a very daring (stupid) decision…I would have never done such a thing (stupidity)!”

“Don’t we have good colleges in India? Why to the US??”

“OMG! So much money, few thousands would be enough for Delhi University, you should have saved money for the future.”

“Is it safe in the US? Drugs, culture, and guns, how will you keep a check on her?….hope your girl remains on the right path…”

Well, with our folded hands, we want to ‘thank’ all those who are so much concerned about our money and child. Their ‘worry’ for our future makes us filled with ‘gratitude’ but we are sorry we have no sense of right ‘investment’.

We have invested all our hard earned money and whatever little we had saved into our kids’ brains.

We are stupid not to leave behind jewelry, fixed deposits, property or bank balance for our children’s future. And without a thought we are ready to invest even the last penny into their education; that probably makes us morons!

I should have kept my girl tucked to my bosom to keep her safe instead of sending her so far to explore the world. She should have nurtured under our prying eyes instead of learning by her mistakes. Instead of providing a compact ‘safe’ Delhi environment we had sent her to the US to discover different cultures and people from all over the world…how insensitive we are! What if our girl goes on the wrong path and brings disgrace to the family? We must not have had so much faith in our upbringing and values. How could we have so much confidence in her to make her confident; she is a girl and we should always protect her instead of making her self-reliant?

We accept we are mindless foolish people to invest totally into our children’s education, to make them independent and to provide the world to explore, to trust our raising and see our future in their future. We feel obliged by all the advises coming from our ‘well-wishers’ and humbly request them not to take too much stress for our investment plan; we have already made an investment.

 

 

Timeline

The journey will conclude

And the travel will end

Standing at the last stop

I will surely look back

The trail I have travelled

Diversions I took, people I met

Some long halts, few rutted rides

Refreshing strolls, racing in time

All that I did, all that I said

Souvenirs I kept, gifts I parted

The last glance on the road

A smile will roll up

My eyes will sparkle

What a voyage it was!

Just to earn that moment                                                                            

I am investing in my timeline…

©Charu Gupta and potpourri of life.

We Are Good Parents!

We are all good parents and we all want our children to be happy, isn’t it?

How to raise a child is a very subjective approach. Different methods and ideologies exist but each parent wants his/her child’s happiness.

There are various categories of parents. Based on my observation I have divided them into two broad groups. Before you read further, keep in mind that we are all good parents.

Group A-  I want to provide all the comforts of life to my child. I want to fulfil all his desires. He should have expensive gadgets, in fact, better than his peer group. Chocolates, chips, pizzas, burgers, colas, Maggie and all the food that he wishes to have should always be at his disposal. Best of dresses and accessories, best school and home for him. A good smartphone with internet should always be available for him (it should be provided as soon as the child is able to hold something in his hand…at the age of one!). I will protect my child from failures and no one can say a word to upset him. I will make sure that each moment should be happy for him.

Group B- I want to provide a comfortable life to my child. I will encourage him to work towards fulfilling his desires and make him understand that it takes time for some wishes to come true. I will provide gadgets according to his age and requirements. I will provide healthy food for his overall development and occasionally/rarely treat him with pizzas, burgers, chips (junk/fast food). I will make my child aware of the ill-effects of these processed foods and will discourage its consumption. Exposure to youtube, whatsapp and other social platforms will be after an appropriate age and it will be under supervision. I will let my child learn from his failures and make him respect others and their views. My child will find his own happiness, and I will be there to support.

There is no right or wrong formula of parenting. 

Hope we are all good parents! 

An Unadulterated Story – Happy B’day Sunny!

This film was shot just before the second wave hit India terribly hard. This short film captures a moment of joy that anyone can bring in the lives of those who are neglected in society. The intention to record this video is not to show what we are doing but to bring attention to the grave reality of many lives. It doesn’t take too much effort to bring a smile to their faces!

United…?

After the Covid vocabulary, the overtly used words are ‘together’ ‘united’, and ‘good citizen’. I was asking myself am I a good citizen? I am a law-abiding person, never broke any rule (never jumped a red light even on the deserted road). I pay tax on time. I practice my right to vote. I respect fellow countrymen irrespective of their religion or region. I do not harm public property.

(check out to know duties of a good citizen)

I am still confused, am I a good citizen?

And the reason for this confusion is whenever I point out what I feel is not right, people start telling me- “be a good citizen!” Whenever I express my disagreement with the policies or actions by the people selected by us (by the people), I am told – “be a good citizen!”

Is this phrase a homonym (same word with different meanings)? Or the phrase has changed its meaning over time? It sounds like- “shut up!” “Just follow the representatives of the country” “you are living in a democratic country but you dare not express your view!” So, essentially being a good citizen means playing dumb. 

 0And the other words ‘together’ or ‘united’, “we should work together to fight this pandemic”, “we need to be united in this crises”, “People and the government need to be together and united to deal with the present situation”

Seriously! Why do we need to be together or united only during the situations like this pandemic?? Don’t we need to be united always?

Divide and rule! This mantra was given by the British who ruled us for 200 years and our own representatives voted by us are following it to the T. They divide and like morons, we let them divide.

Unity, togetherness, and good citizen look like an illusion, a blindfold to ignore reality, a far-fetched dream.

Together we fought a battle against the British for freedom. Are we willing to rise again to be united in reality?

©Charu Gupta and potpourri of life.

Revive Your Conscience

We all know our present depends on the choices we had made in the past. Someone had made a choice to divide the earth into countries, people into castes and God into religions. Someone had made a choice to make nuclear weapons. This country made a choice to rule that country. That group made a choice to oppress this group. And we kept on making the choices to create this present world. Have we made the right choices? Only one person can tell and that is you!

Humans come with a navigating system called conscience, it tells us whether we are on the right path or on the wrong track. Our conscience always warns us whenever we turn in the wrong direction and gives us ‘go ahead’ if we are heading right. That means our conscience always makes the right choice? Yes! Then why is there so much anguish, hatred and destruction in the present world?

Because our conscience is not conscious. Some put it into slumber that is next to dead. Some people’s conscience is in a state of drowsiness; it may work sometimes. Few have fully awake conscience and it ensures that they are always on the right path.

Just imagine a world where all the choices are made by our conscience – watchful, alive and mindful!

We all need to overhaul our conscience to witness serene and beautiful sights on this journey of life and make this world a kinder place.

© Charu Gupta and Potpourri of life.

Now the circle is complete….

You throttled me to croak

And burnt my clan alive

You smouldered me to choke

And uprooted my life!

You unheard my call for help

And my pleads were snubbed

I waited for ages for you to realise

I’m the life that you breathe

Let me live so that you could survive

You were busy building concrete

On the ashes of my woods

I was still shouting to ‘stop’

And warned for the collapse

You were madly on the spree

To construct by destructing me

Now the circle is complete….

You are gasping for breath

And caged in your jungle of concrete

© Charu Gupta and Potpourri of life.

आज कुछ नया गिनते हैं

दुख गिनने बैठो तो खत्म ही नहीं होते
शिकायतें भी अनगिनत हैं
चलो आज कुछ और गिनते हैं
दोस्ती के डब्बे में दोस्त गिनते हैं
अपने सर पर रखी दुआएं गिनते हैं
जिंदगी की गुल्लक में हंसी गिनते हैं
पेड़, तारे, बादल, तितलियाँ गिनते हैं
चलो आज कुछ नया गिनते हैं!


Life is a beautiful blessing make it more special with a heart filled with gratitude 


©charu gupta and potpourri of life.

माना दुख पहाड़ सा खड़ा है

माना दुख पहाड़ सा खड़ा है,
माना अंधेरा काली रात सा घना है,
माना निराशा, बेबसी घेरे है,
माना उम्मीद दम तोड़ रही है,
पर मानों, प्रकृति का नियम कड़ा है,
पौ फटेगी और अंधेरा छटेगा,
स्वास है, जीवन है, जीवित हो,
निराशा की ज़मीन पर बारिश गिरेगी,
और आशा का बीज निष्चित उगेगा!

©charu gupta and potpourri of life.

I am a misfit!

Here I declare if you care to read…

I’m a misfit in the society of ‘elites’

Not part of any ‘group’ for ‘identity’

I don’t hangout to feel ‘accepted’

You ‘like’ me, I ‘like’ you is not for me

I’m a misfit in the society of ‘look happy’

FB or Insta can’t measure my worth

I don’t decorate myself to upload

Maybe this is too much of truth…

No blind faith in person or party

Humanity I choose in the war of religions

Yes! You can call me a misfit!

© 2021 Charu Gupta and Potpourri of life.

एक रह चुनी है मैंने

एक राह चुनी है मैंने,
जहां भीड़ बड़ी कम थी।
छांव को दरख़्त नहीं,
मिट्टी थोड़ी नम थी।
कुछ शोर यहां से चीखा,
“बेवकूफ़ हो, कुछ नहीं कर पाओगे”
कुछ आवाजें वहां से आईं,
“चलते रहो, कुछ मन का कर जाओगे”
एक ने ज़िद्द बढ़ाई, दूसरे ने हिम्मत,
मेरे इरादों की बुलंदी को दोनों ही काम आए!

©charu gupta and potpourri of life.